Most of you know that Joy has a birth defect on her left hand. The docs stated it was due to amniotic banding in the womb. Well, it never seems to affect her too much. There are times she'll hold her smaller hand at an angle as if to protect it or not even use it. So, I believe in her mind, she thinks it is not as proficient as her right hand. And in some ways she is correct. Her left side is not as strong as her right side, and her grasp is not as large. It was brought to my attention by a friend last year, when he picked Joy up, that her left side feels much smaller than her right side. When placing my hands at her armpits to lift her, I can definitely feel that something is "missing". Maybe the muscles are smaller? When I look at her without a shirt, her left nipple is definitely smaller. Is anyone reading this blog familiar with this?
Most days I do not pay much attention to Joy's hand. It is just something I am used to. But, when we are around new friends, the topic somehow comes up. It is usually brought up by way of another child grabbing Joy's hand to see why it looks so different than theirs. Joy sometimes shows her annoyance at being tugged on and states, "It's my special hand." I'm somewhat torn over using those words. I used to tell her that God gave her that hand, but now I'm second guessing what I am saying to her. I don't want her to one day be angry at God for giving her a less proficient hand. I want her to know that this is life. Things are not always going to be perfect. Praise God for our differences, trials, and struggles. They make us who we are. I guess until that time comes, or even if that time comes, I'll let her call it her "special hand".
Welcome to my family blog. I have been married to Mike for over half of my life. I love my Savior, Jesus. I am a stay-at-home, homeschooling mom to six terrific, interesting children. My 3 oldest were born to me in my younger years, while my 3 youngest were given to me by God in my older years. I am very blessed. ~Cheri